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    LIFE SKILLS: GIVING

    My husband likes to read financial books and websites. He likes consulting with financial gurus. In our home, he’s the one who handles the budget, because he’s simply better at it. Year after year, we have made adjustments in our budgeting and I believe we are better at it now compared to when we first started. We have learned a lot about saving, investing and living below our means from all the financial advice we’ve heard. But there is one principle that we’ve both learned from our parents that is not normally mentioned in “How to Get Rich” articles. It is found in Proverbs 11:24 One man gives freely, yet…

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    WHY OUR KIDS MISBEHAVE part 2

    If you haven’t read part 1, click here. The 2nd point I wanted to comment on from the video presentation was this: Punishment and rewards are the biggest time-wasters and the least effective ways to get any child to really listen and respect you. On the contrary, I think it is very dangerous not to let our kids experience the consequences of their actions because it is not like that in the real world. Again, there are many new parenting methods that come out every year, and in the 14 years of parenting experience I’ve had, I still see that the old, time and tested ways of the Bible is…

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    ACCEPTING AUTISM

    I had a lengthy talk today with a mom who had a child diagnosed with autism. I was so amazed at how this friend of mine talked so openly about her son’s condition, with neither shame nor anger. Her son was diagnosed with autism before he turned 2. Since then, it’s been a life of research, attending conferences and therapies for her son. After 6 years, her son has shown a lot of improvement and is very functional. I asked her what single, most important advice would she give to other parents who are going through the same thing. She said it in one word: Acceptance. Unless a parent accepts…

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    GUARDING YOUR EYES

    We were at a convenience store the other day with the kids. While I was getting the stuff I needed, I noticed Ryan standing by the magazine rack and he looked like he was shuffling and rearranging the magazines that were neatly stacked in rows. I gave him that glaring “what-are-you-doing!-leave-those-stuff-alone” look while walking quickly to where he was. As I was getting closer, I realized what he was doing. He was turning the magazines the other way, but not all the magazines, only those that had skimpily-clad women on the cover. He told me “It is not good for people to see these.” I felt so proud of my…

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    Janina, who just turned 11, was relating some of her experiences to me from the last schoolyear. She made a conclusion that made me laugh out loud! She said, “I think girls are the more advanced species.” LOL

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    WHY OUR KIDS MISBEHAVE

    Another message from facebook: hi ms. jenn, i just stumbled upon this video link and i thought of sharing with you and want to know your thoughts. questionable though http://happychildguide.com/presentation/v1/how-to-get-your-child-to-listen_1/ I clicked on the link and watched the video presentation for about 15 minutes and decided i didn’t want to buy the book they were selling. There are a lot of new books out there on parenting and it is quite tricky to choose what to read and apply. I always use one filter to choose which books to read : the Word of God. For this particular book, though I didn’t read the whole material, there were 2 points…

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    WILL YOU EVER SEPARATE?

    A conversation with Ryan, our 6-yr old as we were driving home: Ryan: Why do couples get married and then separate? Paolo and I try to explain the different reasons. Ryan: Dad, Mom, will you ever separate? Dad, Mom: Of course not! We love each other very much and we will stay married until we die! Ryan: That makes me sooooo happppyyyyyy!!! 😀 It is my hope and prayer that every couple realizes how secure their children feel when they know Dad and Mom love each other and will stay together. Security is not found in material things, but in the relationships that really matter.

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    SETTING BOUNDARIES FOR OUR KIDS

    Today our little Joaquin got hold of a marker and started drawing on a small board. After a few minutes, to my shock, I realized that his marker started to wander off the board and onto our floor. Had I not caught him in time, I’m sure his marker would have made it to our walls, and bedsheets, and clothes. I wonder how our house would look like if Paolo and I didn’t have boundaries for our kids. According to my daughter Janina, this place would look like a “dumpster.” Empty bags of chips all over, dirty clothes in the hallway, wet cotton balls stuck on the mirror (yes they’ve…