setting boundaries for our kids

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Today our little Joaquin got hold of a marker and started drawing on a small white board. After a few minutes, to my shock, I realized that his marker started to wander off the board and onto our floor. Had I not caught him in time, I’m sure his marker would have made it to our walls, and bedsheets, and clothes.

Joaquin drawing on the floor. Good thing he was using a washable marker.

I wonder how our house would look like if Paolo and I didn’t have boundaries for our kids. According to my daughter Janina, this place would look like a “dumpster.” Empty bags of chips all over, dirty clothes in the hallway, wet cotton balls stuck on the mirror (yes they’ve done this), drawings on the walls, CD’s on the floor, kids screaming at each other and possibly hurting each other, etc, etc. You get the idea.

Why the need for boundaries? Boundaries keep our children safe and secure. Just as you would never allow your child to run off to a cliff without a fence, you should never let your children live without boundaries. Life without boundaries is dangerous. One can end up hurting others and hurting himself.

We set boundaries for our kids at home for a long-term goal. Children who were taught to live within certain limits and boundaries grow up into responsible adults. We want them to be able to know how to live within the boundaries of their school, their workplace, the government and most importantly, of God’s word. I know a few well-meaning parents who allow their kids to do everything they want and realize that their kids have a hard time adjusting to the rules of their school or behaving in other people’s homes. The worst part is that these kids will have a hard time living according to the will of God. If kids got used to doing their own way, they will have a hard time being in submission to any kind of authority.

Psalm 119:9
How can a young man keep his way pure? By living according to your word.



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