We were having a teachable moment with our children about one facebook status that said “—— is sooooo hot!!”
Paolo/Me: You know kids, there are better ways and words to describe other men or women. You don’t want to say “hot.” The Bible says we need to treat other men and women as brothers and sisters, and with absolute purity.
Ryan: But I heard grandma use the word “hot!”
Me:What do you mean?
Ryan: Last summer, I was in her house, and she said “I’m sooo hot!!”
Everyone: RYAN! She was talking about the summer heat!
I got this note from my daughter yesterday after we had a “little” confrontation. After I read it, I told her I forgive her and gave her a hug.
After a time of discipline, it is our joy to see our kids repent and ask for forgiveness for the wrong that they have done. Discipline is more than punishment or giving consequences. If after you have grounded your child, or given him a spanking, and yet he remains hard-hearted, and there is no change in him, then it just means you are not done with discipline yet. What we want to see happen is for our kids to acknowledge what they have done and repent from it. We want a change of heart which restores them back to a right relationship with us and with God.
When most Filipino families are eating rice for breakfast, our family is eating cereal with milk. Our kids drink milk during the day and before bedtime as well. That makes us heavy consumers of cow’s milk. For years, two of my kids have been having on and off sinusitis and cough. The doctor said that it was probably just an allergic reaction to something. I’ve always thought that it was probably due to stuff in the air or the weather. I never accepted that it was due to cow’s milk since our kids love cow’s milk so much. Until a few months ago, I decided to remove cow’s milk from our diet. Just a week after that, my kids were not sniffing and coughing anymore. But I had to wait a few months just to make sure. And it’s been a few months now. We haven’t successfully eliminated all dairy from our diet but removing cow’s milk was a big difference already.
Here are some of the stuff I’ve read about cow’s milk:
Fifty years ago an average cow produced 2,000
pounds of milk per year. Today the top producers give 50,000
pounds! How was this accomplished? Drugs, antibiotics,
hormones, forced feeding plans and specialized breeding;
Any lactating mammal excretes toxins through her milk. This
includes antibiotics, pesticides, chemicals and hormones.
Also, all cows’ milk contains blood! The inspectors are
simply asked to keep it under certain limits. You may be
horrified to learn that the USDA allows milk to contain from
one to one and a half million white blood cells per
millilitre. (That’s only 1/30 of an ounce). If you don’t
already know this, I’m sorry to tell you that another way to
describe white cells where they don’t belong would be to
call them pus cells. To get to the point, is milk pure or is
it a chemical, biological, and bacterial cocktail?
If you google “diary” or “cow’s milk”, you can read more articles on this.
Some of you might argue this, but one thing I know for sure: no more allergies for my kids.
If you’re a mom, I’m sure you attend a lot of birthday parties. If you attend a lot of birthday parties, and your kids love to join the games, you end up with this big pile of prizes on the table. This happens to me often, and my dilemna is always how to carry all of those prizes to the car.
I got this idea from my good friend and ever beautiful Marie Bonifacio at a birthday party yesterday. When it was time to pack up, Marie put all the birthday celebrant’s gifts in a big pillowcase. A pillowcase can easily be tucked in your bag but is bigger than a regular plastic bag and is strong enough to hold a lot of stuff. What a clever idea!
Deuteronomy 6: 6-9 Write these commandments that I’ve given you today on your hearts. Get them inside of you and then get them inside your children. Talk about them wherever you are, sitting at home or walking in the street; talk about them from the time you get up in the morning to when you fall into bed at night. Tie them on your hands and foreheads as a reminder; inscribe them on the doorposts of your homes and on your city gates.
God wants us to deliberately and aggressively teach our children His commandments. He wants us, the parents, to do it, not the school, not the media, not the church. He wants us to do it wherever we are, whatever time of day. That means while eating breakfast, we prepare them for school with the word of God. Or while driving along the road, and we see an inappropriate billboard, we tell them how God wants us to dress. While watching a movie and there is an “adult scene” we ask them to close their eyes as we explain God’s standard for purity. When they are disappointed, we teach them that we always have hope. When we give them their allowance, we teach them what godly stewardship is. When they are fighting over a toy, we explain how God wants us to treat one another. When they are offended by a friend, we teach them forgiveness. Over dinner, we always thank God for the blessings of the day because every good and perfect gift comes from above.
Let us not wait for the opportunity to come. We need to create the opportunity to teach them. Every moment can be a teachable moment. Let’s be deliberate.
My husband, Paolo, didn’t grow up with a dad. He met his dad when he was already 16. I had no idea what kind of father he would be to our kids. In fact, I was worried he wouldn’t know how to be a good father. I thank God for bringing men into my husband’s life who showed him how to be a father. And I am proud of how Paolo learned so quickly and was so eager to put everything into practice. Being a father is more than providing. It is being involved in every area of your kids’ lives, training them and discipling them in the ways of God. Paolo has been a father in every sense of the word. And I’m sure he will acknowledge that it is only God who can make a man into a real father, inspite of his past.
He was present in the delivery room for all of my childbirths. He has breakfast with the kids every morning to read the Bible and pray with them before they go to school. He is always rushing home to be with the kids, excited to go biking with them and eat ice cream with them. He is always present in every special occasion, never missing a game or a recital. Though he is very busy with work, he always finds time to shower in the rain with the kids, wrestle , tickle-fight, dance to MJ songs (I wish I could show you the video :D), take them out on weekly dates, play Plants vs Zombies, watch Monk, go fishing, gaze at the stars, swim, rock-climb, fly kites, and do every single thing under the sun that would mean spending more time with them.
HAPPY FATHER’S DAY PAOLO!
I knew all along that you would make a great husband
but finding out how wonderful a father you are was a complete surprise! YOU ARE THE GREATEST DAD TO OUR 4 CHILDREN!
THEY ARE SO BLESSED TO HAVE YOU!
Joaquin was reaching out for a ball under the table and hit his head. He immediately ran to me and asked me to kiss his “owie”. As i hugged him and kissed his boo-boo, he walked away comforted and was ready to play again.
When Nathan was a year old, I made up a song that I sing everytime he got hurt. I’ve been singing it all these years to my other kids. I still sing it to this day for my little Joaquin.
Here’s how it goes:
Recently I read this article about how a loving mother who kisses her child’s boo-boos may be providing more health benefits than she knows.
So go ahead, moms, just kiss those owies away, and love, love, love your precious ones!