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    DISCIPLINE MYTHS part 2

    This is part 2 of a 3-part series. For part 1, click here. 2. MY CHILD IS GOOD. HE DOESN’T NEED DISCIPLINE. That’s what I thought too. My first baby looked so angelic I didn’t think he could do anything wrong. The first few months, all he did was eat and sleep and coo and make us smile even when he was asleep. He was such an adorable baby! He was the easiest, happiest baby I’ve seen. But when he started walking and talking, he learned to assert his will and insist on what he wanted. One such incident was when i told him to stay away from the electric…

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    DISCIPLINE MYTHS

    God has given us parents the responsibility to train up our children. He also gave us the manual. It’s the Bible. If only we would look closely at what His Word tells us about discipline, we would all be more convinced that He does want us to do it. In my next series of blogs, I will be writing about the most common reasons I hear from parents who don’t feel comfortable about disciplining their children: 1. I LOVE MY CHILD TOO MUCH TO DISCIPLINE HIM. Anyone who was repeatedly hit out of anger by his parents as a child, or spanked by a leather belt all over his body,…

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    A CHILD’S BOLDNESS

    Oh my! Have you ever given permission to your child to do something but at the back of your mind, he really wouldn’t do it anyway? This afternoon I had a meeting in Ateneo with one of Nathan’s teachers. I told my other 3 kids to just wait in the car with the driver and helper. When I came back, Janina exclaimed, “Mom, I finally did it!” So I asked, “What? What did you finally do?” She saw a man smoking and she went down the car to tell him “Hi! Please stop smoking because not only are you killing yourself, but you are actually also killing me and my…

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    WAIT YOUR TURN

    Years ago, when Paolo and I just had one child, we hosted an American family who had several kids. Over dinner conversations, one child would interrupt his dad and he would just raise a finger to that child and carry on with his conversation. After the dad finishes his conversation, that’s the only time he would give his attention to his child. I would always feel sorry for that child who, in my inexperienced mind, was ignored by his dad. Didn’t the dad have to drop his adult conversation to give attention to his own child? Today, having 4 kids, I often find myself doing the same thing to my…

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    WRITING YOUR EULOGY

    This week was sobering. It made a lot of people stop and think about life. And about death. My dear friend, Maileen Hern, passed away at 38 years of age because of breast cancer. I have believed God for her complete healing since day 1 but God had another plan. And His will is always good, pleasing and perfect. So many people had so many nice things to say about Maileen. She inspired a lot of us to hold on in faith to God’s promises, to persevere in the midst of difficulty, to always focus our eyes on God. Her last words to her daughters were “Always be grateful” and…

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    THE POWER OF WORDS

    A few days ago, one of my children had an uncontrolled outburst of anger and frustration (in short, a tantrum, haha) and kept on putting herself down with words like “I have no purpose… Why did God have to create me?… I’m stupid…” When she finally calmed down and apologized for her outburst, I brought her attention to this article I came across with months ago that showed the incredible power of our words. The Power Of Words Over Water Can water be affected by our words? Dr. Masaru Emoto, a Japanese scientist, believes so. And he has proof. Dr. Emoto took water droplets, exposed them to various words, music,…

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    CANCER AWARENESS

    This morning, I got a text from a friend asking for prayers for her dad who’s going through chemotherapy. Unfortunately, it’s almost been every week that I hear news about someone diagnosed with cancer, a relative of a friend, or a friend of a relative, here and abroad. Here’s one article that I recently read which is helpful to women like me: Cancer Makes Me Angry: One Mom’s Fight Below is one of my favorite chapters in the Bible, which has always been a source of comfort and encouragement. Let us continually declare God’s promises over our lives! Psalm 23 A psalm of David. 1 The LORD is my shepherd,…

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    PRAISE BABY STEPS

    I was getting ready to give Joaquin a bath. I took his shirt off and gave him instructions to go to the bathroom and put it in the hamper. He immediately walked away to do as he was told. When he went out of the bathroom, he was clapping his hands and saying “yey”, which meant “Mom, I did what you asked me to do!” So I clapped with him and said “Yey! Thank you Joaquin for obeying mommy !” When we went in the bathroom for his bath, this was what I saw: Oh well… he tried. I just hope he hasn’t peed in the hamper without my knowledge.…

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    I AM THE BIBLE MY CHILDREN READ

    Charles Swindoll tells the story of four scholars who were arguing over Bible translations. One said he preferred the King James Version because of its eloquent old English, another preferred the American Standard because of its literalism and a third preferred the way the Moffatt translation captured the reader’s attention. After giving the issue considerable thought, the fourth scholar admitted, “I have personally preferred my mother’s translation.” The others scholars chuckled, but as he explained, “Yes, she translated it. She translated each page of the Bible into life. It is the most convincing translation I ever saw.” You have probably heard people say, “My life is an open book.” Well…