WHAT MATTERS MOST

When I attended a wedding in Ayala Alabang Country Club a few weeks ago, the ballroom next to our venue was holding a really big birthday party for a girl in her tweens. The ballroom was all dressed up in a Popstar theme and I told Paolo that this was the sort of party our daughter will enjoy. This sort of party must have cost a lot! How I wished at that moment that I could afford that kind of extravagance.

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To be honest, there are so many things i want to give my children that I really can’t afford right now. But it helps to always keep things in perspective. The most important things that our kids really need are not bought with money. They are not expensive. In fact, they’re free! They need our love, our time, our affirmation, our comfort, our encouragement and most of all they need us to lead them to God. You don’t need money to give these to your children. Sure, iPads and Playstations are great, and if I could afford them, I’d buy them :D, but I don’t think these will really make a diffrence many years from now if you haven’t given your kids what matters the most.

Acts 3: 6 6 But Peter said, “I don’t have any silver or gold for you. But I’ll give you what I have. In the name of Jesus Christ the Nazarene, get up and walk!”

ADOPTING A CAT

When Janina was a lot younger, she would often pick up stray kittens around our village and take care of them in our house. She did this quite a number of times until she was scratched by a kitten and had to be given rabies shots. Since then, I banned all kittens from the house.

Over the years, Janina’s love for cats hasn’t waned. She never failed to let us know how much she would love to have her own cat. I never thought the day would come when we would finally own a cat. Well, that day came. Last week, we went to PAWS to have the kids adopt a cat.  All cats from PAWS have been neutered, and litter b0x-trained, and have been given their shots. The process was simple: just fill out an application form, come for an interview, choose your cat and pay the P500 fee. In just less than an hour, we were on our way home with our very own cat, Raisin.

It’s been almost a week with Raisin and I haven’t touched her. I probably never will. But I’m hoping that having her will provide my children a pleasurable and educational experience.

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Kids looking at the cat cage
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Janina inside the cage to choose a cat
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Janina chose Raisin, a tricolor cat
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Joaquin petting Raisin

MACHONURIN

Men are meant to lead, cultivate and protect. Wives and all the single women who are reading this, let us support the men God has given to us, our husbands, our sons, our fathers, our brothers, even our male friends, by encouraging them everytime they take a step to lead, cultivate and protect. Too often, we find ourselves criticizing them and judging them, thinking that what they do is not good enough. No wonder we see a lot of passive men, who have just given up trying and have turned over the reins of leadership to women.

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Picture by Taal Volcano during the recent Couples Retreat

Whenever your husband steps up, you need to step aside and let him be the man God created him to be. You might feel anxious and fearful at first, that’s okay, but please be encouraging. Always appreciate him for his effort and trust that God will work it out.

Our husbands might and will fail at times, but that doesn’t make them a failure. The more we let them lead, the better they will be at leading.
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Embedded below is the message last Sunday on Machonurin

DEAR GOD

Author: Unknown

Dear God:

Dear GodAre you really invisible or is that just a trick?

Did you mean for a giraffe to look like that or was it an accident?

Instead of letting old people die and having to make new ones, why can’t you just keep the ones you got now?

I went to this wedding and they kissed right in church. Is that ok?

I am American. What are you?

Please put another holiday between Christmas and Easter. There is nothing good in there now.

If we come back as something, please don’t make me to be Jennifer Horton, because I hate her.

If you give me a genie lamp like Alladin, I will give you anything you want except my money or my chess set.

I think the stapler is one of your greatest invention.

I bet it is hard for you to love everybody in the whole world. There is only 4 of us in our family and I can never do it.

If you watch in church on Sunday, I will show you my new shoes.
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I would like to live 900 years like the guy in the bible.

We read Thomas Edison made light. But in Sunday school, they said you made it. I bet he stole your idea.

If you let the dinosaur not extinct, we would not have a country. You did the right thing.

I do not think anybody can be a better God. I just want you to know that and I am not saying it just because you are God.

Thank you for the baby brother but what I prayed for was a puppy.

I hope you had a good laugh! Have a great day!

Jeremiah 33:3 (New Living Translation): 3 Ask me and I will tell you remarkable secrets you do not know about things to come.



WIDEN THEIR CIRCLE

There are 3 relationships in our kids’ lives that we need to develop. More often, we focus on the first two: our relationship with them and their relationship with God. But there is a third relationship that is very important: their relationship with others.

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Nathan and Ryan with David Bonifacio, who regularly spends time with them watching a movie, painting, eating and doing other fun stuff that my boys like to do

This is what the authors of Parenting Beyond your Capacity, Reggie Joiner and Carey Nieuwhof, meant when they said we need to widen our children’s circle of relationships. As much as we are the most important relationship in our kids’ lives, we are NOT the only influence in their lives. As hard as it is to admit, there will be times when our children will be more comfortable talking with another adult, just because that person is not his parents. In that case, do you know who your kids will go to? I would rather he goes to someone who can tell him the same things I would, who will uphold the same values and standards that we have in our home. Those kinds of relationship are built over time. We need to be deliberate and purposeful in bringing other people in their lives as early as possible.

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with Dar, who is one of our "babysitters"

That’s why I love our spiritual family. Different people have invested hours in our children’s lives. I really appreciate our friends who take them out on dates and others who sleep over when we are out of town. And these are people I can trust to reinforce the values that we teach our children at home. I know that when they need advice, our children can run to these guys and will hear wisdom from the Word of God. God doesn’t expect us to parent alone. He knows that our capacity is limited that’s why He has given us people around us to help. If only we will be humble enough to admit that we need other influences in our children’s lives.

2 Tim 2:22 pursue righteousness, faith, love and peace, along with those who call on the Lord out of a pure heart.