Yesterday, Janina and I heard about a survey saying that majority of men prefer “good-looking but poor” as a life partner while majority of women prefer “rich but ugly.”
Upon hearing this, I turned to Janina and asked her “What do you think I looked for in your dad?”
I was assuming she’d say either good-looking or rich (in good deeds maybe :D) , or tall, or kind, or smart, or all of the above, hehe. But her answer caught me by surprise.
She said “godly.”
I did pray for a good-looking, financially-stable, kind and yes, a tall man, among others. But really, on top of my list was godly. A man who feared the Lord, who would honor him in his marriage, work, and all aspects of his life. And i’m glad that Janina saw that, without me having to spell it out.
If there’s something I’ve learned in the last 15 years of being married, it is this. Good looks, money or intelligence are not enough to sustain a marriage. It is really when the husband and wife daily submit their lives to God and allow Him to work in their hearts. That’s what makes a marriage work.
I hope Janina’s perceptive answer is an indication of what she would look for in her future husband. Sure, I’m praying she’d find a handsome, affectionate, responsible, and even wealthy man, but above all else, I pray that she will find a godly husband, a man who puts God first in his life.