Yes, that’s me. I’m the mommy devil! I’ve been called many things before. But this one tops them all! When most of you might think that I am this great and wonderful mom, sometimes my very own child thinks otherwise.
I know my kids love me and appreciate me and i love all the ‘YOU’RE THE BEST MOM IN THE WORLD!” notes that I get. But there are days when they don’t get their way or when they get disciplined and they think that i’m the worst mom ever.
This note was drawn by my anonymous child several years ago after I grounded this child for doing something this child wasn’t supposed to do (this child wants to remain anonymous.)
My initial reaction when I saw it was “Ouch!” which soon turned into amusement. I realized that as moms we have to be ready to be misunderstood to do what we know is for the best of our children. There will really be times when our kids will not like what we do but we just know that we gotta do it anyway, for their own good. Sometimes the easiest thing is to just give in to our kids and avoid the emotional stress that often comes with discipline. But that is only a short-term solution.
Our kids may not completely understand us now when we discipline them, but I know someday they will thank us for it! So this mommy devil is not throwing her pitchfork just yet. 😀
Coming home from a Parenting Seminar that we conducted last night, I was reminded of this one important biblical principle:
Deut 6:9 MSG
“Write these commandments that I’ve given you today on your hearts. Get them inside of you and then get them inside your children.”
Can I just say that again? Get them inside of you and then get them inside your children. I wish there was an easier way. I wish there was a shortcut. I wish that we could just read them the Word and they get it right away. But unfortunately, before teaching it to our kids, it has to be in us first.
We cannot teach our kids to love their neighbor if they don’t see it in us. We cannot expect them to exercise gentleness, patience and self-control if we ourselves are not gentle, patient and self-controlled.
If we do not love the Lord and are completely devoted to Him, the chances are very high that neither will our children.
Our children are imitators. They just tend to walk the life we model for them. I remember one time when we were driving along EDSA, and upon seeing the face of this guy on a really big billboard, I thoughtlessly blurted out “I hate that guy!” A few days after, driving on the same road again, I heard exactly the same phrase but this time it was coming out from my daughter’s mouth. I immediately told her I knew she was just copying me and apologized for saying such an unloving thing.
Charles Swindoll tells the story of four scholars who were arguing over Bible translations. One said he preferred the KJV because of its eloquent old English, another preferred the ASV because of its literalism and the third preferred the way the Moffatt translation captured the reader’s attention. After giving the issue considerable thought, the fourth scholar admitted, “I have personally preferred my mother’s translation.” The other scholars chuckled but as he explained “Yes, she translated it. She translated each page of the Bible into life. It is the most convincing translation I ever saw.”
And that makes me assess myself. How am I translating the Bible into life?