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    OUR LOPSIDED CHRISTMAS TREE

    It wasn’t after most of our ornaments were hanging on the tree when we noticed how our tree looked. Joaquin, our 3-year old, wanted to join in the fun of decorating our tree so I gave him all our stuffed ornaments to hang. Naturally, because of his height, all the stuffed ornaments ended at the bottom of our tree. That was not how I imagined our tree to look like. Sometimes, it is really much easier to do things without the help of our kids. I say “help”, but it feels like they’re really not helping at all. We just end up undoing what they did and cleaning up their…

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    DON’T YOU JUST LOVE BEING A MOM?

    Two nights ago, Ryan came to our room asking if he could sleep with us. Occasionally, one of our kids will knock on our bedroom door in the middle of the night, pillow and comforter in tow, saying he had a bad dream and just wanted to be with us. It is for this reason that I have a spare mattress in our room. I love it that we are able to give them the comfort they need. Joaquin, who has been clingly the past days, told me yesterday “Mom, don’t leave me ok? You’re mine, ok?” That just melted my heart. Last night, after we had a family group…

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    CAN WE CHOOSE OUR CHILD’S FRIENDS?

    One of a mom’s nightmares is to discover her son or daughter in the company of the wrong crowd, doing the things that the wrong crowd normally does like drinking, sex and drugs. Is there a full-proof way to make sure this doesn’t happen? Can we tell our children who to hang out with? Can we approve their friends first? While our children are young, we mostly make their choices for them. We choose the food they eat, the clothes they wear, the movies they watch, the time they sleep. And yes, we actually choose their friends. We organize playgroups with our other mommy friends, and invite kids we like…

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    TURNING 40

    After a string of surprise parties and dinners given by family and friends, I am now back to reality and face the fact that I am 40. It seemed just like yesterday when I turned 30 and I told myself “Oh I still have a long way to go ’til I turn 40.” Well, that time has come. I was hoping I could be in my 30’s a little while longer but time couldn’t be stalled. As with everyone else turning 40, I was asked the question “How does it feel to be 40?” Well, first, let me tell you how I don’t feel. I don’t feel old. When I…