Since our 5th grader, Ryan, is back in regular school this year, we are back to attending PTC’s. We were eager and anxious to attend our first one because we wanted to know how he transitioned from homeschool to regular school. Well, after jumping from one room to the next to meet each of his teachers, we were pleasantly surprised to hear how Ryan adjusted to the big school setting. They had a lot of nice things to say, how Ryan is so participative in class, how sociable and helpful he is.
Ryan ran for class president and won. It is not so much the winning that caught our attention. It was the fact that he nominated himself for the position. He actually didn’t win right way. It was a tie at first. Then he stood up and told his classmates, “Guys, I don’t care if you vote for me or not, just choose the right person.” And then after the next round of voting, he finally won.
How does Ryan have such confidence to actually nominate himself for class president? I don’t know whether leaders are born or made, but Paolo and I have always made sure that our kids know that God has called them to lead. We don’t just tell them they are called to lead, but we show them how. We believe that the qualities of a leader are developed and grown over the years.
It’s a long process and involves a lot of conversations and hands-on training. We boost their confidence by constantly affirming them. We tell our kids over and over that they don’t just follow the crowd, they should lead the crowd. They shouldn’t conform, but they should stand up for what is right. They should lead through serving in humility, and influence through modelling, which means that to be a leader, they need to live a life of integrity. They shouldn’t hesitate to speak up when they have something important to say. We train them how to make the right decisions based on what will honor God.
And most importantly, we give them a vision for leadership. God has called them to lead so they can lead others to Christ. That is the goal. Whether they end up in politics, or business, or in full-time ministry, they need to use their leadership to honor God and make disciples, not for personal gain.
Your child might not look like a leader right now. But you can raise him to be one. These character qualities are developed over time with lots of love, consistency and patience.
For more blogs on leadership, you can check out:
2. He Must Become Greater by Rinnah Ramirez
3. Lead to Leave by Paolo Punzalan
4. Stuff My Dad Told Me by Joe Bonifacio
5. I Don’t Think So by Jek Valle
6. To Lead is to Lean, Learn, Live, and Love by Rica Peralejo-Bonifacio
7. Deny Yourself by Dennis Sy