From Heart to Mouth

I was watching a video of a woman talking about her experiences from her previous marriage. She was saying a lot of not so pleasant things about her ex-husband. Now, I know that I am hearing only one side of the story and I shouldn’t be quick to judge. But watching her speak in such a negative way reminded me of a verse I read a few days ago:

Matthew 12: 34-45 For whatever is in your heart determines what you say. A good person produces good things from the treasury of a good heart, and an evil person produces evil things from the treasury of an evil heart. NLT

The words that come out of our mouths say a lot about the condition of our hearts. During times I consciously or unconsciously blurt out something critical or judgement, I should pause and do a heart check. What’s in my heart that’s causing me to say these things? Is there pride, envy or bitterness? When I start talking about my worries and anxieties and allow them to take over me, it’s most probably that i’ve allowed fear to creep into my heart. When I become harsh and hurtful in my words, maybe there’s anger in my heart.

Every now and then, it’s good to do a words check. What kind of words have been coming out of my mouth lately? Have they been kind, encouraging, humble or positive? Or have they been harsh, negative, arrogant or fearful? And then do a heart check. My prayer is that God will uproot every sin and negative emotion in my heart and replace it with a treasury of humility, faith, goodness and forgiveness.


Don’t we do a lot to take care of our bodies?

We eat right (or maybe it’s more apt to say that we “attempt” to do so). We try to exercise regularly. We do our nightly skincare routine to slow down aging, and spend countless minutes every morning to do our makeup. 

It’s good to take care of our bodies. But it’s also of equal importance to take care of another part of us—one that’s not visible, but truly intrinsic to who we are as women. I’m talking about our soul.

May God himself, the God of peace, sanctify you through and through. May your whole spirit, soul and body be kept blameless at the coming of our Lord Jesus Christ.

1 Thessalonians 5:23 (NIV)

This verse tells us that we have a body, spirit, and soul. Our spirit is that part of us that lives for all of eternity. Our soul refers to our intellect, will, and emotion.

Like our bodies, our souls need rest, and can only find rest in God (see Psalm 62:1). Our souls can be downcast, unsteady, and drawn to sin at times, but the Bible says that God restores it (see Psalm 42:11 and 2 Peter 2:14). On the bright side, Scripture also tells us that our souls have the ability to praise God, and choose to remember all the benefits we have in Him (see Psalm 103:1-2).

Have you ever had those days when you’re upset at something, and you end up snapping at everyone who crosses your path? This is because the condition of our souls greatly affects our disposition. It affects our behavior and the decisions we make. It affects how we relate with our spouse, children, and people in general. That’s why it’s so important that we take care of it.

Here are three ways we can refresh our souls:

1. Spend time with God 

“O God, you are my God; I earnestly search for you. My soul thirsts for you; my whole body longs for you in this parched and weary land where there is no water.”

Psalm 63:1 (NLT)

With the daily challenges we face as women, it is important to spend time with God because He alone is our true source of joy, peace, and strength. Spending time with God by reading His Word will feed our soul with the nourishment it needs. Spending time with God through prayer allows us to lift up our worries to Him, and surrender everything that makes us anxious.

2. Spend time with other women

not giving up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging one another” 

Hebrews 10:25 (NIV)  

There are great benefits to spending time with other women who can relate to what we’re going through. Whether we’re laughing, crying or even just shopping together, knowing that we are not alone already does a lot. Even more so, when another friend gives us a word of encouragement or prays for us. Take time to celebrate your small and big victories with your family and friends, whether through a simple meal or a road trip. 

3. Spend quality time alone

While it’s great to spend time with others, it is equally refreshing and satisfying to spend some quality time alone. Have you ever took yourself out on a table-for-one kind of date without the need to check your phone every two minutes? Nowadays a lot of people feel uncomfortable being alone. But I found that the best time to reflect on the different aspects of yourself—your soul, body, heart, and mind—is when you’re alone, free from distractions and social media. Try inserting some quality alone time in your weekly schedule. Go for a walk or a run. Visit the spa (if your budget permits!). Read a book. Start a hobby. Who knows, you might just discover new things about yourself during that time.

Our souls greatly affect our disposition and relationships, and that is why we need to care for them regularly. If you feel that you’re inconsistent in some of the ways I’ve listed, start a gradual soul-care regimen for it. Your soul and yourself will thank you!