What My Firstborn Has Taught Me

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  Dear Nathan, I can still vividly remember that one last push at the end of my 21-hour labor. Never had I been happy to hear a baby’s cry. And I cried along with you. When our lamaze coach told us that the pain would be worth it, I could now totally understand why. Holding you for the first time gave me so much joy that made me forget the labor pains. Today you are turning 20, and I am getting all sentimental. Without realizing it, you have taught me so much. Here are some of them: You have taught me to enjoy the most mundane of things. The way you love to watch the sunrise or marvel at the orange moon, or when you told me last week as we were biking in Taipei, “Mom, don’t keep asking us to pose for pictures, ok? Let us enjoy this experience”… […]

Celebrate Character, Not Ability

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  Parents, don’t we love to praise our children? Praise is good because it fills one of our children’s greatest needs which is affirmation. Keep in mind though that how you praise your children actually shapes their values. Some kids are naturally gifted in academics, sports and music. So they excel even without putting much effort into it. And we often hear ourselves telling them, “You’re smart!” or “You’re a great singer!” But how about your other kids who are not as gifted? If this is all the kind of praise that is heard in your home, your other kids could be thinking, “Well, I can never be as smart as my brother, or I don’t have a great singing voice like my sister, so I can never be as good as them.” If we focus solely on abilities, we inadvertently make our other kids feel inferior. These kinds of praise also […]

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I did an interview about homeschooling on CNN’s Real Talk, along with fellow homeschoolers Mariel Uyquiengco and UP Prof Ched Azardon. I am happy that more and more moms are getting interested in it.

The Pressure to Have Perfect Kids

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When I picked Joaquin up from Kids’ Church, I was told by his teacher that he misbehaved that day in class. His teacher heard him saying some words that were inappropriate. At this moment, part of me felt embarassed and wanted the ground to open and swallow me up. You see, this was after my husband just preached a powerful message in the assembly hall. The teachers were probably thinking “This is Pastor Paolo’s son? How could he behave this way?!” I was surprised to hear about Joaquin’s behavior, yet not that surprised because we’ve observed that Joaquin has been in the stage of testing all boundaries. I affirmed the teacher that he was right to call out Joaquin’s wrong behavior and told him that we were going to deal with it at home. These are my thoughts: 1.Our kids will never be perfect. Yes, we try to train them and discipline […]

A Healthier Lifestyle

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No, we are not turning vegetarians. That is just not realistic for us. But my husband and I do want to be healthier and I want to share the things that we have been doing with our family. We didn’t make any drastic changes, or else, the kids will start a revolution hehe.. We’ve had to choose what was doable for everyone. There are things that we still cannot completely eliminate like fried chicken and the occasional McDonalds. We are far from being experts and we know that we still have so much to learn, but we are happy with the little changes we’ve been able to make as a family. 1. Getting enough sleep. At least 8 hours a day. We turn off our wifi at home at 10pm to make sure that the kids don’t get tempted to stay up for social media surfing. 2. Cutting down on […]