Are You Easy To Honor?

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One of the most important commands that we pound on our children is “Honor your father and mother.” This is not for us, not because we are ego-tripping, or because we enjoy the adulation of our children. No, this is for them. This command is the first commandment that comes with a promise. Exodus 20:12 says “Honor your father and mother. Then you will live a long, full life in the land the LORD your God is giving you.” (NLT) Deuteronomy 5:16 says “Honor your father and your mother, as the Lord your God has commanded you, so that you may live long and that it may go well with you in the land the Lord your God is giving you.” (NIV) We want them to honor us so that they can enjoy the promise that comes with it. Which parent doesn’t want a long, full life for their children? […]

The Non-Assertive Parent

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“Time to go to bed,” the mom says. “No, I still want to play!” answers the child as he walks away. The mom just lets out a sigh and goes back to her book. I don’t know how parents have evolved in the last decades, but one thing I’ve observed is that children these days react so much differently to their parents. Children seem to be more assertive to their parents and parents less assertive to their children. Parents don’t seem to have the same confidence in putting their foot down, compared to parents of my generation. They are scared to impose a routine, establish boundaries or implement consequences. I am not saying that they don’t care and are neglectful. I mean, it is good that children are heard and considered but it’s just that they have become more tolerant and easily manipulated by their children. Thus, resulting to children […]

The Best Treasure

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After our evening devotions, I asked Joaquin, “Do you feel unhappy when other kids gets the cool stuff you want?” Joaquin answered, “No, because I already have the best treasure which is God’s love.” In a society where materialism is encouraged, it is a challenge for parents to make our children realise that more things doesn’t mean more happiness. It happens too often in every household: your son begs you to get him the latest gadget because all his friends have it. Or your daughter complains about her new shoes because it’s not a signature brand and she’s embarrassed to be seen in them. Everytime we give in to our children’s unreasonable demands, we are reinforcing their sense of entitlement. They will grow up believing that it is their right to get whatever they want, when in fact, a lot of the things they enjoy are a privilege. They will […]