the cost of raising a child

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Author: Unknown I have seen repeatedly the breakdown of the cost of raising a child, but this is the first time I have seen the rewards listed this way. It’s nice, really nice. The government recently calculated the cost of raising a child from birth to 18 and came up with $160,140 for a middle income family. Talk about sticker shock! That doesn’t even touch college tuition. But $160,140 isn’t so bad if you break it down. It translates into $8,896.66 a year, $741.38 a month, or $171.08 a week. That’s a mere $24.24 a day! Just over a dollar an hour. Still, you might think the best financial advice says don’t have children if you want to be “rich.” It is just the opposite. What do you get for your $160,140? Naming rights. First, middle, and last! Glimpses of God every day. Giggles under the covers every night. More […]

why our kids misbehave

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Another message from facebook: hi ms. jenn, i just stumbled upon this video link and i thought of sharing with you and want to know your thoughts. questionable though http://happychildguide.com/presentation/v1/how-to-get-your-child-to-listen_1/   I clicked on the link and watched the video presentation for about 15 minutes and decided i didn’t want to buy the book they were selling. There are a lot of new books out there on parenting and it is quite tricky to choose what to read and apply. I always use one filter to choose which books to read : the Word of God. For this particular book, though I didn’t read the whole material, there were 2 points the author raised from the 15-min presentation that to me are questionable: ( I will discuss the other point on my next blog) 1. The real reason why kids misbehave is found in the child’s brain chemistry. When a […]

will you ever separate?

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A conversation with Ryan, our 6-yr old as we were driving home: Ryan: Why do couples get married and then separate? Paolo and I try to explain the different reasons. Ryan: Dad, Mom, will you ever separate? Dad, Mom: Of course not! We love each other very much and we will stay married until we die! Ryan: That makes me sooooo happppyyyyyy!!! 😀 It is my hope and prayer that every couple realizes how secure their children feel when they know Dad and Mom love each other and will stay together. Security is not found in material things, but in the relationships that really matter.

setting boundaries for our kids

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Today our little Joaquin got hold of a marker and started drawing on a small white board. After a few minutes, to my shock, I realized that his marker started to wander off the board and onto our floor. Had I not caught him in time, I’m sure his marker would have made it to our walls, and bedsheets, and clothes. I wonder how our house would look like if Paolo and I didn’t have boundaries for our kids. According to my daughter Janina, this place would look like a “dumpster.” Empty bags of chips all over, dirty clothes in the hallway, wet cotton balls stuck on the mirror (yes they’ve done this), drawings on the walls, CD’s on the floor, kids screaming at each other and possibly hurting each other, etc, etc. You get the idea. Why the need for boundaries? Boundaries keep our children safe and secure. Just […]