Waiting for the Fruit

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I wonder if you can guess the plant on the photo. Part of my morning regimen is to drink a cup of lemon water. Since I squeeze a lot of lemons in a week and throw out so much seeds, I tried planting some to see if they would grow in our warm Manila climate. I’m nowhere near being a gardener. I’ve had a few attempts at planting in the past that were unsuccessful. But with my lemon seeds, I took the time to water them and to make sure they were getting enough sunlight… just the basic stuff. That’s as far as I know about planting. Well, a few months after, here they are… and still growing. I’m still not sure though whether they will bear fruit or not. I guess I’ll just have to wait and see. It doesn’t take much to make one understand that in order […]

there is life in winter

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Do you ever dream of winter? Living in a tropical country, I think most of us at one time or another, have wished for a snowfall, and have imagined how it would be to make a snowman and throw snowballs. When we lived in Russia during the early part of our marriage, I realized one thing… winter is really not a lot of fun. For the first few days it felt enchanting, yes, but after that, it became really, really cold and gloomy. The sun would only show up for a few hours each day, if it did show up, and all those winter clothing I imagined wearing became heavier and heavier by the minute. And then you start longing for spring. When we visited our friends, Joel and Jennie Magpantay, in Michigan a few weeks ago, this twig in their living room caught my attention: Our friends explained that […]

keeping your toddler still

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It is funny to see the different things parents do to try to control their children. One of the best places to observe this is at the pediatrician’s clinic, where the long wait really makes it so challenging for parents to keep their children behaved, myself included. While I was waiting for our turn,  I heard two different moms sitting on opposite sides of me threaten their child with ” If you don’t behave, you’ll get an injection.” Poor child. This only increases the trauma of doctors visits. And poor doctor too. Because now the child sees him as the person who inflicts punishment. Last weekend, our 3-year old Joaquin was a ringbearer at the wedding of two of our good friends. I anticipated that Joaquin will become restless sometime during the course of the ceremony and reception so I brought some toys with me. His toys kept him occupied […]

what if i get impatient?

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Conversation in the car: Janina: Mom will I ever get famous? When will I get famous? Mom: Yes you will! But I don’t know exactly when. Do you remember the timeline you made for your school project? God has His timeline for your life mapped out even before you were born. Janina: What if I get impatient? Don’t we all relate with her question? This was a good time for me to explain to Janina what it means to wait upon the Lord and not go ahead of His will. I don’t like waiting. Whether it’s waiting in line, or waiting for my husband to pick me up, or waiting for an answer to a prayer. Left to our own, we will give up waiting. That’s why we need God’s strength as we wait. But those who wait on the Lord will find new strength .Often times, we get tired […]

waiting patiently

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Author: Unknown There was a man who had four sons. He wanted them to learn not to judge things too quickly. So he sent them on a quest, one by one, to look at a pear tree. The first son went in winter, the second in the spring, the third in the summer, and the youngest on in the fall. When they had all gone and returned, he called them together to describe what they had seen. The first son said that the tree was ugly, bent and twisted. The second son said it was covered with buds and full of promise. The third son disagreed; he said it was laden with blossoms that smelled so sweet and looked so beautiful, it was the most graceful thing he had ever seen. The last son disagreed with all of them; he said it was ripe and drooping with fruit, full of […]

playgroup problems

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Dear Jenn, Could I ask you for a piece of advice? My daughter is already attending playgroup . I’m amazed at an early age that she learned a lot like eating independently, wearing her slippers properly, and a lot more things that an ordinary 2 year old cannot do yet. Today, her teacher spoke to me about my daughter beating her classmate. Honestly i don’t want to make excuses for my daughter though i told her teacher that she won’t hit anyone if she was not provoked but still I know that it’s wrong to hit or hurt someone. I was convicted of my actions. Because nowadays, I’ve been disciplining her too much. And sometimes because I have a lot on my plate, I really get impatient with her and shout at her. I can’t help but think that my own behavior has caused my daughter to be aggressive towards […]

wait your turn

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Years ago, when Paolo and I just had one child, we hosted an American family who had several kids. Over dinner conversations, one child would interrupt his dad and he would just raise a finger to that child and carry on with his conversation. After the dad finishes his conversation, that’s the only time he would give his attention to his child. I would always feel sorry for that child who, in my inexperienced mind, was ignored by his dad. Didn’t the dad have to drop his adult conversation to give attention to his own child? Today, having 4 kids, I often find myself doing the same thing to my children. It is quite a challenge to carry on a decent conversation with my husband with 4 kids around who all constantly demand my attention. What I now realize is that American guest of ours was teaching their kids to […]