the trap of instant gratification

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After last Sunday’s preaching on our church‘s new series, “It’s Not About the Money,” I couldn’t help but think about my own kids and the lessons that my husband and I have tried to teach them in terms of handling money. I’d like to think that our kids have progressively become wiser when it comes to money. While our youngest still thinks that the ATM will dispense money for us unlimitedly, we see our third child having more self-control in his spending, and our two teens have started their own mutual funds account already. It is never too early to teach our kids about money. If there is one important lesson that we made sure to teach our kids, it is TO WAIT. Our kids are born into a culture of instant gratification. Much of it is due to the internet, though the internet has been so helpful in many […]

there is life in winter

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Do you ever dream of winter? Living in a tropical country, I think most of us at one time or another, have wished for a snowfall, and have imagined how it would be to make a snowman and throw snowballs. When we lived in Russia during the early part of our marriage, I realized one thing… winter is really not a lot of fun. For the first few days it felt enchanting, yes, but after that, it became really, really cold and gloomy. The sun would only show up for a few hours each day, if it did show up, and all those winter clothing I imagined wearing became heavier and heavier by the minute. And then you start longing for spring. When we visited our friends, Joel and Jennie Magpantay, in Michigan a few weeks ago, this twig in their living room caught my attention: Our friends explained that […]

waiting patiently

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Author: Unknown There was a man who had four sons. He wanted them to learn not to judge things too quickly. So he sent them on a quest, one by one, to look at a pear tree. The first son went in winter, the second in the spring, the third in the summer, and the youngest on in the fall. When they had all gone and returned, he called them together to describe what they had seen. The first son said that the tree was ugly, bent and twisted. The second son said it was covered with buds and full of promise. The third son disagreed; he said it was laden with blossoms that smelled so sweet and looked so beautiful, it was the most graceful thing he had ever seen. The last son disagreed with all of them; he said it was ripe and drooping with fruit, full of […]

wait your turn

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Years ago, when Paolo and I just had one child, we hosted an American family who had several kids. Over dinner conversations, one child would interrupt his dad and he would just raise a finger to that child and carry on with his conversation. After the dad finishes his conversation, that’s the only time he would give his attention to his child. I would always feel sorry for that child who, in my inexperienced mind, was ignored by his dad. Didn’t the dad have to drop his adult conversation to give attention to his own child? Today, having 4 kids, I often find myself doing the same thing to my children. It is quite a challenge to carry on a decent conversation with my husband with 4 kids around who all constantly demand my attention. What I now realize is that American guest of ours was teaching their kids to […]